Choosing that special man or woman to spend the rest of our lives with is an nivitable task that almost every one has to go through at one point in life.The choice you make maybe a determinant of your level of achievement in life.Right choice will bring a lot joy and fulfilment,wrong choice may lead to bitterness and frustration.Therefore we must choose wisely!The following are some of the salient factors to consider before choosing a life partner:
PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL COMPATIBILITY:It is advisable that you choose someone you are physically attracted to.This does not that he/she must be handsome or beautiful,what it means is that you must find him or her desirable enough before commiting yourself to marriage.Your friends might not find him or her attractive,but as long as you comfortable with his or looks,that is all that matters.
You should also look out for emotional compatibility;marry someone you are in tune with emotionally,a friend that you can easy communication with;someone that you can be with for a long time without feeling bored or trapped.Do not marry someone who is more or else an intimate stranger no matter the attraction.
INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY:This does not necessarily has to do with your level of education.You can marry someone with a lower or higher educational status than you as long you can converse intelligently with one another without any display of inferiority or superiority from either side."inferiority complex" is usually very difficult to handle in marriage.
FINACiAl ABILITY:Money is very important in marriage relationships.But, please do not choose a partner base on his/her finacial wealth alone such a union will not last.At the same time do not commit yourself to someone who does not have the ability to contribute to the finacial needs of the home no matter the level of attraction.
BACKGROUND/CULTURE:This is an aspect that many people overlook before marital commitment which is wrong.Carefully study the culture and background of someone you intend to marry to ascertain if there is anything you might not be comfortable with in marriage.Any issue should be discussed between you and your intended spouse to ascertain if or how it might affect your relationship in future.Some traits tend to run in some families,it better you are prepared in advance before marriage.
SPIRITUAL COMPATIBILY:In this modern times so many youths believe that they can achieve anything base on their ability alone.This is not correct,we all need the grace of God to succeed in life,espeecially in marriage.First, what is your own view of religion and relationship with God? please choose someone who has similiar views.For instance if you are a fervant christian,it will be for you to find someone simliar, to enhance you rellationship with God.
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