This is an excerpt from a letter I received recently and since this is not the first time of receiving such letter, I believe it is high time I share it so that some people might benefit from the answers that will follow
"I am a 38 years old lady and still unmarried. My two younger sisters are married with kids.
Despite all the efforts I have put into my relationships, they have always ended up in disappointment.
There is so much pressure from family and friends on me to get married and it has started affecting my concentration at work. Please advice me on what to do"
Thanks for reaching out instead of surpressing your feelings which could lead to depression
First, marriage is not a competition, there is no age limit for marriage. Anyone can get married first, be it younger or older. Many have rushed into marriage as a result of age factor and rushed out in pain and frustration. It is an individual race we embark upon in life, therefore do not compare yourself to anyone. Let it happen naturally.
Secondly, you may have been disappointed in your relationships because you showed so much desperation which men can easily sense and get put off. Do not try so hard to please a man because you want to get married./ Just be yourself and if he is indeed yours, he would definitely stay
In addition, focus more on your work, career or business. and try to make a success of it.
Nowadays no man want to marry a liability. If you need more education, get it now that you are still single. With marriage comes more responsibilities.
Finally, get closer to God. Believe me, marriage is not easy. You need God in every step of the way. The best time to start is by committing the choice of spouse into His hands
Stop worrying,, make yourself look good and happy, marriage is not the ultimate in life, it is just one of the many important aspects
of life.
"I am a 38 years old lady and still unmarried. My two younger sisters are married with kids.
Despite all the efforts I have put into my relationships, they have always ended up in disappointment.
There is so much pressure from family and friends on me to get married and it has started affecting my concentration at work. Please advice me on what to do"
Thanks for reaching out instead of surpressing your feelings which could lead to depression
First, marriage is not a competition, there is no age limit for marriage. Anyone can get married first, be it younger or older. Many have rushed into marriage as a result of age factor and rushed out in pain and frustration. It is an individual race we embark upon in life, therefore do not compare yourself to anyone. Let it happen naturally.
Secondly, you may have been disappointed in your relationships because you showed so much desperation which men can easily sense and get put off. Do not try so hard to please a man because you want to get married./ Just be yourself and if he is indeed yours, he would definitely stay
In addition, focus more on your work, career or business. and try to make a success of it.
Nowadays no man want to marry a liability. If you need more education, get it now that you are still single. With marriage comes more responsibilities.
Finally, get closer to God. Believe me, marriage is not easy. You need God in every step of the way. The best time to start is by committing the choice of spouse into His hands
Stop worrying,, make yourself look good and happy, marriage is not the ultimate in life, it is just one of the many important aspects
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